When Adam and I got married, not much changed. We were already living together, already planning our futures together, and already helping each other financially and emotionally. I knew the marriage would make me feel different...but, the way I actually felt different was a HUGE surprise to me.
On our honeymoon (if you even want to call it that, but that's for another day), I had this sudden urge to have a baby. For the first time in my life I wanted nothing more than to have Adam's child. I wanted to feel the things my sisters always glistened about when they were pregnant. Never in my life have I wanted to have kids...until I got married to Adam.
I try to convince Adam every single time he is home on the weekends that we should have a baby. He says we should wait at least two years before we make that decision (so that hopefully he will have a more permanent job). Which, yes, makes sense...but when did have a family really need to make sense?
With Wall Street blowing up, and me freaking out even more about Adam not have a job in January, I've calmed down a bit with the baby talk. But it's still there...lurking. Is it better to wait until we are financially more stable? Or, do we just go for it, and make it work? I see pros and cons to both sides...but I can't decide which is the best.
I guess before anything should happen, it would at least be nice to live with my husband. Maybe after January I can talk Adam into it, and the economy might have a better outlook. Here's hoping!
2 comments:
You will never have enough money for kids. You just always make it work somehow. Economies have blown up before and it always bounces back. IN MY OPINION you shouldn't have kids based on economic data. Things always work out when you have patience and just let it go. I'd love to be an aunt again and just a little hint that no one has named a baby after me yet!! I'm just saying.
hmmm...laurel that is so sad for you since with liz your odds should have been pretty high!! (love ya' Liz) Tree..all I gotta say if 'you crazy girl' (you have to imagine a really really gay guy saying that with a flick of the wrist and a head turn simultaneously to make it what I am thinking in my head!)
ENJOY your husband. Have fun with him. Get to know each other as husband and wife before you add a gremlin into it, and yes that is what it would be!
that, again, is my two cents. perhaps i will open up a diff blog that you guys would be invited to that will just talk about how crazy my sisters are! I think i could make money on that...bank even (not current 'bank' but before this week 'bank')
ha.
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