Equal partnerships

I think one of the reasons I am so afraid of having children, is because I don't want to give up my career. I've worked hard to get where I am (though it's not where I ultimately want to be), and I'd be sad to give that all up when I have children.

One of the blogs I read "World as Meditation" writes a lot about choice feminism, and she had a blog with a link to a New York Times Magazine article all about becoming equal partners in marriage, and in raising families. It's a long article, but it pinpoints a lot of interesting facts about women and men, and how they change their work schedules once children come into the equation.

The article is also good because it doesn't say one way is better than the other. Which is exactly how I feel. If I choose, to someday leave my career because I want to focus on being a mother...I want to be able to do that. The article talks about a lot of different "partnership" scenarios between men and women. There is a lot to think about, and I think I'll have Adam read it...and we'll discuss it together.

Here's a link to the article...in case you are interested in reading it. Again...it's rather long, so maybe take a page at a time.

I have no doubt that at some point in my life I will want kids. I hope that I decide to have children someday, and decide to work it out with Adam as to what works best...for both of us. Maybe I'll love my job so much, and he will be able to just write drill or something. The truth is, I don't know what is best for me, in teh future. All I know is the now, and for now, I'm alright with us not hurrying into thinking about children. Right now, we've decided to focus on our careers. That will more than likely change in the future...and I look forward to that battle once it comes.

anyway...something to think about!